Setting highly valued goals
There are plenty of evidence-based activities that enhance our wellbeing via setting highly valued goals. Below are two of them, which you may find interesting to do:
“Think ahead to your life as you would like it to be and how you would like to be remembered by those closest to you. What accomplishments and/or personal strengths would they mention about you? In other words, what would you like your legacy to be? Write this down in the space provided. Don’t be modest, but be realistic.
Once you are finished, look back over what you rote and ask yourself if you have a plan to create a legacy that is both realistica nd within your power to do so.
After you’ve finished writing, put this worksheet aside and keep it somewhere safe. Read it again a year from now, or five years from now. Ask yourself whether you have made progress toward achieving your goals, and feel free to revise if new goals have emerged” (Rashid & Seligman, 2019)
Most feared obituary
The next activity is a little bit on the dark side. It is not my personal favourite, but I believe that some people find it very useful. It was assessed as part of the Quality of Life therapy.
“Pretend that you have failed to change unhealthy and unhappy patterns that you have now and project how these problems will get worse as you get older and die. The Most Feared Obituary is based on living a long life with out any positive changes in your current standards, priorities and goals. In fact, problems can be expected to get much worse over the many years that you “let yourself go,” deteriorate, and do nothing to make your life happier or healthier in any way. Next, pretend that you have agreed to write your own obituary just before you die. This is a very personal and detailed obituary for all of your friends and family to see. (Frisch, 2006)”
Frisch, M. (2006). Quality of Life therapy: A life satisfaction approach to Positive Psychology and Cognitive Therapy. Hoboken, NJ: John Wiley & Sons.
Rashid, T. & Seligman, M. (2019). Positive Psychotherapy: Workbook. New York: Oxford University Press.