The beauty of openmindedness

The beauty of openmindedness

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This weekend I went to a beautiful wedding of two gay friends of mine. The ceremony took place in a swanky Sheraton Hotel on the river Shannon in Ireland and was witnessed by over 200 people, family and friends. I had the honour of being asked to do a reading during the ceremony, and as I stood there, about to read the lyrics of a song by Bob Marley  “He is not perfect…” I looked above my friends’ heads and was amazed with the variety of people I saw in the room. There were some young and middle-aged couples, both hetero- and homosexual, lots of babies and toddlers moving around, cool teenagers, many members of the older generation, aunties, uncles, parents and grandparents. All of them, were there for one…
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Mindfulness time

Mindfulness time

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I live a very busy life. I am involved in a lot of projects and work with many people around the world, which means that time zones have no limits for me. Last year, one of my colleagues asked me to collaborate with him on a mindfulness paper. To my big surprise I was not overjoyed by the idea and, with a heavy heart, I decided to decline our collaboration. My main reason for it was because I was already behind on my own work and was afraid that taking on this project would set me back even further. Another reason, however, was way more complex than this, and I only realised it after some reflection. I began my mindfulness meditation practice over a decade ago following from a college…
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Does socialising make you happy?

Does socialising make you happy?

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People matter – a positive psychologist, Christopher Peterson used to say to summarise the impact of friendships on well-being. Research keeps showing us that having friends is associated with higher levels of optimism, lower risk of health problems, including depression. Having friends prolongs our lives, and generally speaking, makes us happier. However, a recent study carried out in the US with over 15,000 people found that indeed, for most people frequent socialising with friends does have a positive impact on their life satisfaction. The only exception are those, who reported higher IQ. Specifically, individuals with higher levels of verbal intelligence were less happy living in urbanised areas and frequently socialising with friends. Their life satisfaction was higher when in a rural setting and having less interaction with people. Well, perhaps…
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Authentic becoming

Authentic becoming

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Are you in the midst of an “authentic becoming”? It is a phrase that I hear people use more and more often as they learn about the science of positive psychology. It was originally coined by two psychologists Tim Kasser and Ken Sheldon to describe a process, by which people pursue their true selves and become the person they were perhaps meant to become. As odd as it sounds, it is something that many of us experience. Let me give you an example. A good friend of mine has always been what other people wanted her to be. She is a good daughter who sometimes bites her lip when her mum gives out to her about something she has done. She is a great wife, who keeps the peace in…
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